Learning to Embrace the Bust: A Friend’s Battle with Breast Cancer Changed Me
October 30, 2019
Boob guilt. Have you ever experienced it?
It’s a thing. I only know so because I’m living it it first-hand, right now.
Throughout my life, I have been called “busty”, “well-endowed”, or “top-heavy”.
And I always thought of my breasts as more of an annoyance than an asset. Countless times, I’ve complained about them being in the way, and as a mother, I was constantly fearful that they would smother my nursing newborns.
Countless times, I’ve complained about them being in the way, and as a mother, I was constantly fearful that they would smother my nursing newborns.
Finding a well-fitting, comfy bra has always been quite the challenge. Let alone something that would qualify as pretty. And button-up shirts are not EVEN welcome in my closet.
Regretfully, I can remember times when I’ve remarked how I wish I could just cut them off.
Or when someone complained about their lack in size, I was never hesitant to jokingly offer to share some of my own to supplement.
That mindset has since changed.
One of my closest friends recently underwent a double mastectomy as another step in her fight against cancer.
And while she had some time to prepare for it, I don’t think anyone is ever truly ready to give up an important piece of their body.
I’ll never forget speaking with her the night before her surgery. She was getting ready to take her last shower and say her goodbyes to them.
I can’t imagine.
Since her diagnosis, I’ve tried hard to imagine. To put myself in her shoes.
But I can’t.
I have, however, learned to appreciate and love myself in ways that wouldn’t be possible had it not been for her.
And while I’m over here looking for ways to help her, she is concerned with making sure I’m doing my own self-exams.
She wants that message shouted to all women from the rooftops.
So please, in honor of Rachel, “feel on the first”, ladies,
René is a motivated mother of an imaginative boy and a spunky girl. She lives in the heart of the Bluegrass State with her highly competent husband, their two children, and quite the impressive bourbon collection. By day, she holds a full-time career in marketing and advertising, and once her kids are in bed, you can find her unwinding with a glass of Cabernet and a blank word doc. Those who know her well would say her super powers include: finding the silver lining, planning, organizing, giving the benefit of the doubt, and making others feel special and loved.